It’s undeniable that parenthood is expensive. In fact, according to a recent Freedom Debt Relief survey, 20% of parents say the cost of childcare was about the same or more than the cost of their rent or mortgage payments. And in a 2017 study, the USDA estimated that the cost to raise a child born in 2015 is $233,610. Depending on where you live, the number could be even higher.
Raising a child comes with many unexpected costs that even the best parenting books can’t prepare you for. So, to help new parents get ready to deal with these expenses, we asked our employees to tell us about their most unexpected costs of raising a kid as new moms and dads.
Your child’s social life
Maintaining a social life is expensive. After you become a parent, your social world changes as all of your focus goes towards your raising little human(s). Before you know it, they’re enrolled in school, daycare, and other extracurricular activities where they start to develop friendships and form their own social circles. The invites start to roll in and you’ll soon find that the restful weekend you’ve been looking forward to is packed with birthday parties and playdates. Your little human’s budding social life and all of the expenses tied to it (gifts, tickets, snacks, etc.) can become overwhelming and a drain on your budget.
My tip: Don’t try to do it all. Your quality time with your children should be your #1 focus – especially if you’re a working parent with mainly evenings and weekends to spend with them. If you have the bandwidth to pursue these social activities, then by all means go to a few of them. Allocate a small budget, or “fun-fund” for your child’s social activities so that you’re not pulling money from necessary living expenses. Consider making thoughtful homemade items with your kids and giving them out as birthday presents. Take advantage of bargains and major sales when buying gifts. Re-gift items if you find an opportunity to. Maintaining a social life for yourself AND your children is possible!
Social Media Content Manager
The snack attacks
Raising two boys on my own required various methods of cost-cutting for some time. I can’t really say I had an unexpected big expense, more like a lot of ongoing ones. While raising my kids, I had to come up with ways to shave excess costs but still enjoy life and do the things we wanted.
For example, when we took our yearly trips to Disneyland, I would take boxed drinks and snacks to cut down on expenses while in the park. My youngest son’s stroller was like a food cart that allowed us to avoid the expensive drinks and food they offered there. And since we were able to cut back on food and drink costs, I was able to use some of my budget to get each of them a souvenir (at young ages, any trinket made them happy).
My tip: Cutting some corners and a little resourcefulness can go far to help reduce the cost of raising kids.
Prenatal and birth costs
About a week before we were going to have our first child, we got a phone call from the billing department at the hospital where we had registered to have Alessandra.
They wanted us to “prepay” the amount that we would owe based on the insurance that we had. The amount: $4500. A “lively” conversation ensued, but I already knew roughly what the birth and the hospital stay were going to cost. When we found out we were pregnant, I had a conversation with my insurance carrier about it.
Just know that you cannot be compelled to pay in advance, although it may feel like it when the billing department calls you!
My tip: Have an EARLY conversation with your insurance carrier to understand what the cost will be based on the hospital you choose. Most carriers will send you an Explanation of Benefits (EOB) that you can use to help map out everything from the prenatal doctor visits to the actual birth day. This information may prove useful in saving hundreds, if not thousands of dollars.
Once you have that information make sure to save into a Health Savings Account. This tax-advantaged account can be used to pay for current or future healthcare expenses. When combined with a high-deductible health plan, it offers savings and tax advantages that a traditional health plan can’t duplicate.
Director, Corporate Communications and PR
Balancing your kids’ needs vs. your own
While it’s good to be aware of the costs of raising a kid, another challenge is navigating and balancing their future and your future. Of course, we all make sacrifices for our children. However, there is enough data to suggest that we as parents need to strike a better balance to ensure we are saving enough for retirement while still meeting our obligations to our dependents. It’s also crucial that we teach our kids about money early on, so that they can do the same.
Get help planning your family’s financial future
Whether you’re planning for your own future and retirement or teaching your kids about money, it’s important to learn effective ways to manage debt, money, and financial goals. But you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. At Freedom Debt Relief, we’ve developed a simple to follow guide to help you find the tools you and your family need to move to a better financial future. Get started by downloading our free guide right now.